I always end the year by writing about my accomplishments, failure, regrets and resolutions. This post is all about my biggest 2016 failure, which is funny because I started a company to help teams beat failure.
People might think I don’t like to fail, and that’s just not true. In fact, I believe that it’s essential for personal development and growth. What I hate is the way in which most people fail. It’s so boring and mediocre.
No, really, tell me about how much you hate your in-laws. While you’re at it, tell me how you hate your job, and how you’re looking for a new one. No, it’s not you. It’s your boss.
But as I look back at 2016, I can see that my biggest failures were predictable and based on a single theme: I can’t delay gratification. I tried to stop drinking, this year, but failed because I haven’t found any other device besides champagne to soothe my soul. I also decided to start running long distances, again, but I can’t commit to the middle-of-the-week workouts to build up my endurance.
I don’t like to suffer at all, dammit. In avoiding suffering, I suffer more. And I suffer in an ordinary way.
So my biggest failure in 2016 is picking the certainty of today instead of the possibilities of tomorrow. It’s a stupid way to live, and I hope to work on this in 2017.
Tip for making changes?
Don’t set a future date to start but start right away.
Second tip…
if gratification is your thing then promise yourself something that improves you rather than something that pulls you back into bad habits: a lens for a camera, a pottery course, a dance class rather than cake/alcohol