I always end the year by writing about my accomplishments, failure, regrets, and resolutions. I love this time of year because the calendar naturally moves me to reflect and take action. This post is all about 2020 resolutions.

I’ve been writing this series since 2004, and have accumulated an extensive archive of resolutions. The one thing my intentions always have in common?

The inclination to try.

I’ve made all types of commitments to myself throughout the years, but the one core promise that is always constant? I do the work.

Whenever I fail, it’s not because I haven’t made an effort. Often, it’s because I’m flying blind, muscling through, and trying to figure out a way forward without any help or guidance.

So, here’s what I’ve learned about resolutions. Yes, it would help if you committed 1005 to the goal. Yes, it would be best if you broke down those big resolutions into small, bite-sized chunks. Sure, it would be useful to keep a journal and meditate and practice self-care.

But relationships are the currency of life. You can’t meet any goals — big or small — if you do it alone.

Happy new year. See y’all in 2020.