My grandmother once predicted that I would become a Republican once I started making money.
I laughed so hard and told her, “Gramma, I can’t be a Republican. I love abortion too much.”
She said, “Just watch.”
Well, it’s a decade later. I am far from a Republican, but I am big on personal accountability. That’s why the story of a Creighton University basketball fan drew my attention. Do you know what happened?
A restaurant printed a bunch of shirts that read, “We are not responsible for lost or stolen virginity.”
Some kid wore one of those shirts to a basketball game.
— LFR (@lruettimann) March 8, 2015
Apparently, the restaurant owner has regrets. (No shit!) The school is embarrassed. And, if it hasn’t happened by the time this post hits the wire, the kid will probably be outed.
I don’t like using the internet to shame people (or companies) because, let’s be honest, shame doesn’t work. And when you use the internet to shame someone in a passive-aggressive way, it makes the whole online experience a lot less fun.
But I do wonder why a restaurant owner thinks “stealing virginity” is a legitimate marketing campaign. I work with marketing and HR professionals in the restaurant industry. There’s a reason you’ve heard of those restaurants, and you’re only hearing of Blue Jay Bar & Grill right now.
I don’t know why this young man thought wearing t-shirt was a good idea, either. Unless he doesn’t speak English and is under the age of 18, he is fully responsible for being a moron.
And I’m not sure why one of the tens of thousands of adults in this basketball arena didn’t pull that kid aside and say, “Get the hell out of here. Don’t come back until you learn how to dress yourself.”
In fact, I’m mad at everyone sitting next to this kid. We’ve become the kind of country where we feign righteous indignation on the internet, but we don’t hold anyone accountable for poor choices and bad decisions. Banks fail. Politicians lie. People get raped. We run to the internet and talk about awareness and advocacy as if it means something.
Blue Jay Bar & Grill has an opportunity to fix its mistake, I suppose. The dumbass kid who wore this shirt has an opportunity to apologize and grow from this experience. But if you ever see a kid wearing a t-shirt that advocates violence against women, I hope you say something before it escalates on the internet.
I’m no Republican, but attitudes and behaviors are changed through action and not through lectures and posts on Facebook.
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